It was my birthday and my best friend, a male, decided to give me a red rose on my special day. :) It made me really happy deep inside, because I know that flowers have a special connection to a lady's being.
Hanging out with my best friend on my birthday was a fun thing to do, just relaxing, chilling out. :) As we entered the mall, i saw a number of my friends because of an on going event. I was with my best friend and i was holding a red rose in my hand. As soon as everyone saw me, they looked directly to the rose and then to my best friend.
A girl, a boy & a rose.
"SHI SHI HAS A BOY FRIEND!" that's the thing that came out of their mouths. One said it, the other heard it and everyone started teasing me and my best friend. I tried to make them understand that he's not my boyfriend but rather my best friend. Of course nobody believed me. The red rose was a sure evidence for them.
It made me think a lot when left. How a single rose could create such a huge commotion and how people could be so close minded. I don't understand why people would give so much meaning to a kindness a person could show. I mean, i would understand them if i had a rose in my hand in a random day, but come on, it was my birthday! My best friend was being a best friend. He gave me what would make me happy and not what would make me fall in love with him. The bottom line here is, my best friend gave me a gift, a red rose. Is a red rose labeled to be for lovers only? Wasn't roses made by God, to be given to every single one of us? Just because I don't have a boy friend or a suitor, does it mean i can't have a red rose?
Roses are made by God, to bring warmth in people's heart. Be it red, white, blue or pink.
My best friend actually wanted to give me a white rose, because he knows how much I want one and giving it on my birthday will make it special :). But apparently, white roses was unavailable. So he gave me a red one instead. Some people just can't understand what pure intentions mean anymore. But boy am i glad that i have a sweet best friend who has great fear in God.
Just because I am with a man, doesn't mean something is going on between us. That's the culture's sickness, couple pairing. There are so many boy-girl friendships that are broken, just because other people interfere by arousing unnecessary feelings because of their mere "friendly" teasing. They'll say "Hey if they're not really in love with each other, teasing them won't affect them!" OH COME ON! human beings WILL ALWAYS be human beings! They'll ALWAYS have feelings and emotions.
Peer pressure will ALWAYS be peer pressure.
Hey i don't have anything against teasing; but i think everyone should know it's boundaries. If a girl and boy says that nothing is between them, teasing must stop, or they'll mess up their friendship. If there is courtship going in between them, then go on.
Boy-girl friendships that stays strong despite the teasing are rare to find. If ever they be find, they're emotionally strong. Sad to say not everyone is like that. I just hope people will start respecting such friendships and not play as matchmakers or fortune tellers.
Then people wonder why there are so many guys who become play boys or women who cheat on their boyfriends. If you want these things to stop, it better start with you. Before you tease a girl-boy best friends, be sure to carry the guilt in the end of ruining their friendship because of a 'friendly' teasing. Yeah, they might be in a next level relationship, but you can never define the future that's ahead of them. Stop playing with destiny and start respecting & knowing your boundaries.
Teasing may seem so harmless, but believe me, it caused so much broken friendships.
PS
A lot of people are teasing me and my best friend; but thank God that we gave our friendship to God's loving hands; and He has guarded our hearts in different ways, and by God's grace, step-by-step we're learning a lot on what real friendship is all about. :)
